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| 2016 NCC CALLIGRAPHY GROUP 3,1 ST GOLD WINNER Ayyub Mohamed Ismail |
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| 2016 NCC CALLIGRAPHY GROUP 3,1 ST GOLD WINNER Ayyub Mohamed Ismail |
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| 2016 NCC CALLIGRAPHY GROUP 3,1 ST GOLD WINNER Ayyub Mohamed Ismail |
Monday, 16 May 2016
2016 NCC CALLIGRAPHY GROUP 3,1 ST GOLD WINNER Ayyub Mohamed Ismail
Your Friend Is Your Destiny by Maryam Mohamed Ismail
Your
Friend Is Your Destiny
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem. Alhamdulillah, Assalatu
Wassalamu ala Rasoolillah, Amma bad
Honourable judges, respected elders and my dear
brothers and sisters, Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
So before I begin my speech I just want to know
whether I am speaking to the right audience.
Whoever’s ultimate goal in life is to go to Jannah
and attain the pleasure of Allah put your hands up.
Whoever thinks that they need a friend in life put
your hands up
Whoever has been brought up in a Western country put
your hands up.
Alhamdulillah! I have got the perfect audience. This
speech is tailor made for you!
Today Im standing in front of you to deliver a speech
on the topic of ‘Your Friend Is Your Destiny’. So when I first read the topic
the immediate thought which came into my mind was that if I was the one who was
responsible for my thoughts and actions which leads to my destiny then how can
my friends be my destiny? I mean they can’t force me to do anything!
But when I did my research I was really shocked to
come to the conclusion that your friends are your destiny.
Well who is a friend? According to the oxford
dictionary a friend ids a person whom one has a bond of mutual affection,
typically one exclusive of family relations.
So in order for us to understand this concept deeply
we need to understand what friendship is like in the society in which we live
in today.
Friendship in our society is based on benefit. It’s
called a self interest bond. Friends come together on mutual interest so that
they can get comfort from each other and do things together. And when they have
problems they can turn to their friends for advice.
So since friendship in our society is based on
benefit it breaks up very easily. That’s why we see people that once their interest
is completed they drift apart. So we can see that in order to maintain our
friendship we’ve either got to fit in or please them. So how can we stick up to
ourselves? It really won’t work like that! In both situations whether
intentionally or unintentionally we are obliged to accept other peoples thought
and actions. And because we spend so much time with our friends their concepts
enter our thoughts, then it becomes our concepts, which leads to our actions
which determine our destiny.
The Prophet (saw) said in a Hadith that, “The example
of a good companion and a bad companion is like that a seller of musk and the
one who blows the blacksmiths bellows. As for the seller of musk he’ll either
grant you some or you buy some from him or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell
from him. And as for the on e who blows the blacksmith’s bellows he’ll either
burn your clothes or you’ll gain an offensive smell from him.” Reported by
Sahih Bukhari and Muslim
Subhanallah! This is so true! Let us take ourselves
for instance... Suppose we are with our friends and one of us starts
backbiting... What do we do? We either add a comment... Laugh...or be silent.
But do any of us actually stop them? And this is how peer pressure works.
This concept is even proven to you by science. Let me
quote to you what Abialbon Paul who is a Physician into Pharmalogical research
says about peer pressure, “In simpler terms Peer Pressure is a powerful force
that compels people to do something or act in a certain way which would make
them feel accepted amongst their peers.”
So my dear brothers and sisters, I have proven to you
that you’re Friend Is Your Destiny through reality science and divine
evidences. This is the fact! The important thing now is how we can make our
destiny better? What is the way forward for us?
And I’d like you to reflect on the Hadith where the
prophet (SAW) said, “A person is likely to follow the faith of this friend so
look whom you befriend.” Reported by Sahih Abu Dawood
So now my dear brothers and sisters we need to take a
step back and think about ourselves... Who are my friends? What do we do
together? Is it something that pleases Allah (swt) or displeases him? What do
we talk about? Is is something about Allah, Islam, something good and
productive or is it about movies, guys, girls, fashion or gossip about who
Taylor Swift has broken up with now! And I can see some of the honest people
smiling down there! Anyway, Are we confident enough to encourage amongst
ourselves Islam or not. And when we make a mistake, do our friends actually
correct us or vice versa?
If the answers to these questions are positive, then
Alhamdulillah! We can carry on this friendship. However if the answers to these
questions are negative, we need to pause at this point and think... Are we
going to please our friends in the expense of displeasing Allah (swt)? Are we
still going to befriend someone whom you already know that they are just you
friend for benefit? Is it worth sacrificing out eternal happiness just for a
temporary one?
My dear brothers and sisters of we don’t question
ourselves now and correct ourselves now, it’ll not only affect us in this life
but also in the hereafter. Allah (swt) tells us what people will say about
their friend in Surah Furqan verse 28.
يَـٰوَيۡلَتَىٰ لَيۡتَنِى لَمۡ أَتَّخِذۡ فُلَانًا خَلِيلاً۬
Which means:”Oh woe to me! I wish I had not taken that one as a friend!”
Subhanallah! This Qur’an Ayah is just so powerful and scary! And it adds
to the concept that your friends are your destiny. May Allah (swt) safeguard
all of us from these people. Ameen
So after listening to all this one may think of not wanting to have a
friend. But it’s human nature of wanting to have a friend. And that’s why Allah
(swt) has given us so many guidelines on how to choose and how to be a good
friend.
S o in order for you to remember everything that I’ve said today, I have
made an easy checklist by using the same letters of the word ‘FRIEND’.
Number 1: ‘F’ is to ‘Find Out’. So we need to find out... who am I?
What’s the purpose of my life? What’s the ultimate goal of my life? And if we
find the answers to these questions correctly, then we would know what the
destiny we want to achieve.
Number 2:’R’ is for ’Righteous’. Which means that first of all we’ve got
to be a righteous person and then find righteous people to befriend with. It
doesn’t matter about their age, colour or race. Because Allah (swt) says in
Surah Az-Zuckruf Verse 67:
ٱلۡأَخِلَّآءُ يَوۡمَٮِٕذِۭ بَعۡضُهُمۡ لِبَعۡضٍ
عَدُوٌّ إِلَّا ٱلۡمُتَّقِينَ
Which means; “Close friends on that day will be enemies to each other,
except for the righteous.”
N umber 3: ‘I’ is for ‘Intention’. Which means that our intention should
be pure. Our friendship is only for the sake of Allah (swt), and there should
not be any other hidden agenda.
Number 4: ‘E’ is for ‘Eternal’. Which means that our friendship should
continue eternally.
Number 5; ‘N’ is for ‘Nice’. Which means that we should be nice to each
other. Even when correcting and advising each other. Even when correcting and
advising each other, it should be done in the best possible manner.
Last but least, ‘D’ is for ‘Destiny’. Which means that our friend is our
destiny!
Finally I conclude my speech by asking Allah (swt) to make our destiny
in this life and the hereafter beautiful through our righteous friends.
Ameen
Jazakallu Khairan for listening to my speech.
Wa’akhiru Da’wana Anil Hamudu Lillahi Rabbil Aalameen.
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
2nd Gold winner,
Group 4 NCC 2016
02 April 2016
Sunday, 15 May 2016
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